Jealous girlfriend tells bride that her boyfriend used to have a crush on her in college, warns her to watch herself during her wedding: 'I didn’t want to cause drama, but I thought she deserved to know the history.'

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Emmy Pratt • Writer and Editor
Apr 21, 2025 4:00 PM EDT

I am one of many people who have dreaded attending my crush's future wedding. The thought of someone whom you fantasized about marrying and being with for the rest of your life doing that with someone else can be deeply upsetting, to the point where you can't even bring yourself to attend the wedding. That being said, usually, crushes that were once the most important thing in your life fade over time. Could you imagine if you were married to the guy you had a crush on in your 6th-grade Trombone class? Or the first person you hooked up with in college? While some people hold onto crushes for years and years (and God bless you if you're one of them, it literally could never be me) most of us can look back at them and laugh, look back with neutrality, or think, "What on Earth was I thinking, crushing on them?"

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  • The guy in this story walked into his former crush's wedding with very little baggage about their past experiences. Heck, he wasn't even thinking about it until his girlfriend decided to tell the bride about it, warning her to watch out and essentially branding her boyfriend a creep.

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    AITAH for leaving my girlfriend at a wedding after she told the bride I used to have a crush on her?

    I (27M) was invited to a friend's wedding last weekend, not someone I talk to every day, but we were close back in college and stayed in touch. The bride and I had a flirty friendship back in the day. Nothing ever happened but I
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    did used to have a bit of a crush on her. Early in my relationship with my girlfriend (26F), I mentioned that in passing, just one of those "haha yeah, college was messy" conversations.
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    The wedding itself was great. My girlfriend and I got dressed up, had a couple drinks, danced a little. At some point I noticed her and the bride talking by the bar.
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    They were smiling, laughing....nothing seemed off. Up until the bride started acting really weird around me. Like distant, uncomfortable.
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    Later, one of the bridesmaids (who I also know) pulls me aside and goes, "Hey, just so you know, your girlfriend told the bride you used to be in love with her, and that she should 'watch herself tonight.""
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    I honestly didn't know what to say. I confronted my girlfriend about it, and she didn't deny it. She said, "I didn't want to cause drama, but I thought she deserved to know the history." I told her there was no history, and even if there had been, saying something like that at someone else's wedding was completely out of line.
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    She got SUPER defensive. Said I was blowing it out of proportion and caring more about the bride's feelings than hers. I told her I was embarrassed, hurt, and honestly kind of shocked by how casually she'd tried to stir the pot at someone else's wedding.
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    She ended up dismissing everything I said, told me to get over it and stop making a scene.
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    So I said f and left. I got in the car and drove home without her. I figured she'd find a way back with one of her friends (she knew several people there). She eventually did, but now she's saying I "abandoned" her, and a couple of her friends are messaging me saying I humiliated her and I'm an awful person for just leaving without her.
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    I don't feel like I was wrong to walk away but I was just super upset and I'm starting to think the way I handled it was a bit over the top. AITAH?
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    Reasonable_Low_4120 NTA. Completely inappropriate. You had a crush you weren't "in love." Your girlfriend completely blew it out of proportion and made the situation uncomfortable for both you, the bride, and her husband. Your girlfriend is an A hole.
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    CasualRazzleDazzle This is the worst part of it. First of all, “She deserves to know your history," is a perplexing take on this, not only because OP and the bride HAD no history beyond friendship, but also because if we lived in a world where we were morally required to disclose all of our personal feelings and secrets, it would be shambolic and humanity would be even more neurotic and paranoid than it already is. So JUST the fact that she thought she should tell this woman someone's personal
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    But then to do it at this woman's wedding reception takes it from inappropriate to malicious. This is quite possibly the only wedding the bride and groom will ever have, and remembering the moment you both agree to make a life together, whether that's with a wedding or not, should be one of your happiest memories. OP's gf didn't just spill OP's deepest inner thoughts (that he felt safe sharing with this gf, no less), but she used the spillage to puke all over the bride and groom's celebration of
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    Kiltwarrior_87 And everyone is glazing over the fact that OP's girlfriend said to "watch herself" because of the crush. Why frame it like that? Insinuating OP might try some creep sh.
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    Bitter-Picture5394 That's exactly what it was. She was purposely saying all that to drive a wedge between OP and his friend.
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    Pure_Butterscotch165 Exactly. Telling the bride that he used to have a crush on her at her wedding is weird but kind of whatever, it could be a cute/funny story. "Watch yourself" makes him sound like an obsessed stalker and is deranged.
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    Ghazef But then to do it at this woman's wedding reception takes it from inappropriate to malicious. This, 100% this. I can't imagine a good time to reveal this to someone, but at their wedding has definitely got to be one of, if not the actual worst times you could possibly pick!
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    content_great_gramma GF got what she deserved. She ruined the day for OP and the bride and groom. She was vicious. Too bad that she did not have to walk home. Think twice about continuing this relationship. She will try to alienate any and all friends, family and acquaintances.
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    OldGmaw2023 You need to wake up -- Red Flags all over This was your Girlfriend > Deliberately ruining the Brides wedding day > Jealousy rearing its ugly head
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    By telling Bride a exaggerated lie about your 'feelings' back in college. What exactly was she trying to warn her about > like you were going to make a declaration of love when making a speech ?? Or pin her in a corner saying You should have married me ?? WTAF?
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    Girlfriend has issues .... you will always have to wonder > what is she saying to people to keep you to herself... thank goodness the friend told you > because you would have Never known why the bride who 'was' your friend pulled back
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    How many other friendships has she destroyed behind your back?? Any other friends that you thought you were ok with, suddenly ghost you? Look around - girlfriend is a liar > blaming You for getting upset She Lied and got caught
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